October is officially in full swing. Amazing how it happens that time passes whether we’re ready or not. Expectations, hopes, intentions all come and go. Sometimes you meet them sometimes you don’t. No matter how hard you try, you just can’t do it all, let alone do it all well.
What has impressed me the most in the last year or so is how many of those best layed plans never pan out. Or maybe I shouldn’t say never, I should just say they don’t happen quite as timely, orderly, seamlessly as I always hope they will. I’m getting used to it I guess. It’s taken me a long while, but I’m beginning to better understand it and better yet, just accept it. This wasn’t always the case.
Perfectionism used to be an issue for me. Heck, I still grapple with it. But after a lot of work to tame that beast, and the separation of my worth from my work, I have slowly become more kind and accepting of myself. Over a year ago I had a personal “I am Enough” epiphany and that was a life-changer, I have to say! Self-kindness was the single best gift I ever gave myself.
Last week the amazing Brené Brown hosted a web wide Perfect Protest in celebration of her new book “The Gifts of Imperfection : Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed To Be and Embrace Who You Are.”. The response was amazing. Our deepest desire is to kick perfection to the side of the road came to the surface as people shared what saying good-bye to perfection would help them say hello to in their own lives. It was so inspiring! My first thought was “Good-bye perfection, hello humanity.” And when I shared it with a friend she replied, “But you’ve always been human, even when you’ve tried to be perfect”. This is true. But working so hard to hide it helped, well, hide it. At least a bit. Even if for no other reason than to mask my imperfections a little. Now that I’m letting go and not working so hard to be perfect, I am seeing my many imperfections very clearly. What comes with that however is that everyone else can see them too. It’s now as if my humanity is pouring out all over the place; flaws, shortcomings, weaknesses, etc. It’s kind of messy. And uncomfortable. And as much as I am so relieved to finally embrace my imperfections, it’s not always easy to sit by and watch them be revealed to everyone else. Gulp.
Brene’s words struck a chord on this point when in her book she shares that choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect.
Bingo. It does take courage! That means, it’s not easy.
I know the only thing that’s going to make it a little easier is the knowing that I’m not alone. I know it’s saved me on so many other points, that this will not be an exception. It’s exactly why I can think of no better idea than to celebrate imperfection as a sisterhood! We need this. I need this! Let’s ban together and focus on the amazing, inspiring, authentic, real, beautiful side of imperfection. The more we point our lenses toward imperfection the more we’ll appreciate it, in ourselves and in each other.
We are going to use the month of October to do exactly that as we are partnering with Brené Brown, author of The Gifts of Imperfection : Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed To Be and Embrace Who You Are in this month’s One Word Project. Let’s see what kinds of imperfect gifts you can find this month! Be sure to add yours to our OWP Flickr pool! We promise we’ll be sharing lots of inspiration and some super-fun giveaways too in honor of imperfection.
Let’s kick it off today with images so perfectly imperfect, they beg to be shared!