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Today, I photographed a birth. I saw a human being breathe air for the first time. It was the first portrait session that has ever made me cry to the point that I had trouble focusing. And it was a huge honor.

Today I also read the deeply moving tribute that my cousin Leah wrote about her Grandmother (my great Aunt Isabel) who has recently passed. Unfortunately, I never had the chance to get to know her. But it made me think about my own Grandmother's passing. How one day she was there. The next day, she was not. She had overcome countless obstacles in her long life. She had been strong, unwavering, determined. Way ahead of her time, she had even been The Lieutenant Commander. Then one day she was fragile, and flew away.

Today I'm feeling the circle of things. Maybe I'm also feeling melancholy and sentimental. I spent the evening going through old photographs, in the big bin. We all have them, don't we? The big bin? The one that sits unassumingly in your attic or basement. Mostly ignored, and taken for granted, it stores all your treasure memories. Summer camp. That boy. That note. That time. The way she laughed. The big bin stores the tangible evidence of your minutes. Just in case you forget. Because in the end, it's just not about the shutterspeed, or photoshop, or those cool new actions you just bought. In the end, all that matters is the Remembering.

Want to share your favorites? The ones that help you remember? 

Posted on Wednesday, February 27, 2008 by Registered CommenterMaile Wilson | Comments41 Comments | References1 Reference

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    This post from Maile has me rummaging through my bin of photographs, memorabilia and old (gasp!) handwritten journals.

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Goodness, what a post. I'm so teary now I can't focus either. Time to get out the big bin and begin to Remember.
February 27, 2008 | Registered CommenterTracey Clark
yes, time to pull out the big bin!

i'm photographing one of my best friends births next month and am so excited and honoured to be asked to witness this emergence through the viewfinder!

this post also has me thinking of all the photo albums at my parents house that we go through each year. so beautiful!
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commentervivienne
I try and capture the little things about my children that I don't want to forget: the softness of their skin, the curl of their lashes, the carefree hair. Sigh.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBunny
So beautiful I have lost two people close to me this year, so I have been doing lots of remembering. My son turned ten and my daughter is about to turn five.....so I have been doing even more remembering.

Here is one of my favorites. I can still remember this moment as if it had just happened.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/muckyyuck/2296098934/

So cool, you got to photograph a birth. :)
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commentermel from freak parade
Thank you for this post and your photo. My daughter's grandfather (on her dad's side) died yesterday and I'm in that same thought pattern of how the circle of life is constant. Births and deaths happen every day but sometimes we don't remember how powerful both events are until the circle touches our own hearts again.

Wishing you peace and love. Patty
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterpatty craft
This may happen at your house too. But my girls pull out their "big bin" a lot. I started a photo album for my oldest when she was little of random pictures, pictures that were sent to me, pictures of the dog, pictures of the girls when they were babies. They love it! They pull it out regularly and just look. Questions they ask are, "Where were we when you took this?", "How old am I here?", "When can we see Grandma?", "Do I still have that toy?" Reminiscing in their own way.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMelody A.
Maile --

Funny you should be writing this today -- I've actually spent the last few days going through my archives to put together a book for my daughter's 4th birthday celebration at her school. In doing so, I found my favourite newborn picture of her:

http://chookooloonks.blogphotography.com/archives/7899_1714915339/281315

and my favourite picture of her ever (taken for future blackmailing purposes):

http://chookooloonks.blogphotography.com/archives/7899_1714915339/281516

Great post!

K.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKaren
What a beautiful post.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMrs. Eaves
Thanks for the post. It's nice to think back, isn't it?

Here's one of my favorites--from when my siblings and I were little. We had such a great time together. It's such a funny picture.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/ginnahendricks/2296297394/

I think I owe my mom for my love of photography...
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterGinna
gosh, isnt' it amazing, being there in the first moment of fresh life? you are forever changed by that birth too, just like the mother was, just like the child who was welcomed. i attended a good friend's homebirth and it stayed with me for quite some time, in the same way as you are describing, everything became circular.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commentercamerashymomma
That picture is seriously stunning! Thank you for posting it!

I'll have to think on what I'm going to post for today and come back to it. So many memories :)
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterRaven
How do you keep giving me these prompts that are so timely in my life?

Picture/post about my grandparent's house:
http://springtreeroad.typepad.com/springtreeroad/2008/01/dreams-of-sprin.html

My grandparents' back patio:
http://springtreeroad.typepad.com/springtreeroad/2008/02/since-i-started.html
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commentermaya
What an honor to photograph a birth! We were lucky enough to have my mom in the room as our photographer and the moments she captured make me teary eyed every time I see them. Here's one of them I love...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/73498912@N00/387034212/in/set-72157594530759010/
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMaya
This is one of those pictures, I think, that doesn't jog the memory as much as it captures something not easy to forget.


http://siobhanconnally.com/

February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commentertoyfoto
This made me all weepy. I need to start PRINTING my photos.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterFireMom
I have never "learned" how to use my fancy camera. It was a gift for Mother's Day, and since then I have been delighted to just aim and click. One day, when time becomes mine again, I will be more invested in all of the gadgetry and magic that comes along with the knowledge of REALLY knowing how to operate it. But for now, I just relish the daily memories my camera affords me.

Like this one:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/cherryfizzy/2249246721/

This is my daughter at my grandmother's gravesite. My grandmother, like Maile's, seemed simply to fly away one day - too soon to know her great-granddaughter. The moment captured here - uncomplicated, quiet and just lucky on my part - is a tender reminder to me of how fragile and lovely the life cycle truly is...
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commentercherryfizzy
Beautiful, Maile. I cry like crazy when I watch A Baby Story, so I can't imagine photographing a birth. What a wonderful experience to have.

I love looking through old photos and remembering. Mine isn't very touching or sentimental, but something I should definitely remember.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/sparkphoto/2295738821/
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterPaige
Yes, the big bin. We all have one. Thank you for the lovely photo and lovely post.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterElizabeth
This is a wonderful post. My 88 yr. old grandma won't be around much longer so one day I shot away and this is one of those photos that now sits in a frame next to my bed.
http://flickr.com/photos/jeroldssis/2296605826/?eOrig=2296586620
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterChris
So very true. I am constantly reminding myself that sometimes it isn't about getting the "perfect" shot. It's about capturing the moment, even if you have to use the flash and the shot isn't composed the best way. Because those shots are the ones I'm going to show my kids someday and laugh or cry and smile.

There's a time and place for the creative "perfect" shots. And there's a time and a place to capture the moment in all its imperfection.

Thanks for the reminder and inspiration.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterRachel Dallaire
After my grandmother's passing, my big bin got a lot bigger. I inherited photos dating all the way back to when cameras were first invented. Some of my treasures are photographs of people I never knew, printed on paper so thick it feels like a pound or two, with delicious contrast and hand tinted accents.

They don't as much hold memories for me as they do tie me to my immediate family. They tell me of where I came from, and make me reflect on my favorite things about my mother, my aunt, my sisters. My children. Their children.

My favorite isn't actually a photograph, but a handwritten journal entry that I later published online after my grandmother passed:

http://krystynheide.com/blog/2007/4/7/come-rain-or-shine.html

There are many days when I'm feeling overwhelmed and defeated, and reading this reminds me that snapping out of it is only a rootbeer float or a pincurl away. :)
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterkrystyn
Wow. This post put a big lump in my throat...

I put together a Flickr set a couple years ago of photos from my Dad's life: http://www.flickr.com/photos/sierraromeo/sets/72057594127203690/detail/

Thanks for the post, Maile.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSarah-Ji
Every February all I seem to talk about, think about, and remember is my son's journey and survival of cancer and chemo. It doesn't get in the way of my day, but is always in the back of my mind this time of year as it is the anniversary of his diagnois. I am not feeling sorry for us, but just remembering. 3 years later it is still sinking in. If it all sank in at once I would probably be a basket case. Anyway, today I am sharing an online journal with photos I kept throughout his treatment. It helped me cope back then and today it helps me remember that even through all of that we are such a strong and happy family. I feel like the journey has brought us full circle. It has brought us the realization that without the rain, you cannot fully appreciate the sunshine, and that life is fleeting, short and fragile......so ENJOY the HECK out of it! I was hesitant about sharing, but here is:
http://www.caringbridge.org/md/calebsmith/index.htm
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterStephanie
This was lovely... it inspired a trip to my basement for the bin.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSusiej
Okay, here is one for today.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/justexpressive/2296829640/

It's from '06 and the first time my son experienced "real" snow.

He had been so joyous all afternoon but when I got this shot he looked like he had the weight of the world on his shoulders. I still don't know what he was so deep in thought about but I love how serious his expression is, and how small he seems.
February 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterRaven

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