Flowers on her table, taken with the iPhone using the ShakeIt app.
I visited a friend the other day. We didn’t meet in a restaurant for a time constrained lunch. I didn’t swing by for ten minutes because I was in the neighborhood running an errand. I actually got into my car and drove with the sole intention of just bringing her lunch and catching up.
And it was kind of awkward. Not between us, but within myself. Why am I here? Why am I not answering emails or editing or planning or school shopping or blogging or cleaning or organizing or you fill in the blank. I walked into her house. And even though I’ve known her for years, it struck me that I’d never seen her home in the light of day. With most of the neighborhood at work, things seemed quiet and peaceful, even a little surreal. We talked at her table, lounged on sofas, laughed. By the end of our visit, my feelings of mild anxiety were replaced by a total sense of calm. I drove away thinking that I couldn’t remember feeling so unburdened even after checking multiple items off my to-do list. “Productivity” is sometimes lonely. I run from the bank, to the gas station, the grocery store, the office, the computer. Sometimes I’m so focused on tasks that even when I’m surrounded by people, I forget to look around and actually see them. Even though what I’m “working” so hard toward “acheiving” is a more fulfilled life. Maybe my fulfilled life is already here. Maybe it’s just a lunch date with a friend away. In essence, maybe it’s about taking a minute to look around and experience what’s right in front of us.
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